I'm not perfect, but...

I was reading a "How to make your guy feel special" article, and while some of it was good stuff there was one tip that made me raise my eyebrows, and here it is:

7. Greet him with surprises:
Your daily routine of going to the office and coming back can take a toll on your love life. But unless you take initiative, nothing will sort itself out. Try something new every day. Greet your man with flowers or a nice drink or a surprise movie at your home theater.

Yes, that's right. A long day at work might make your man feel neglected so you should bring him flowers to say you're sorry. With such wonderful tips like this it's no wonder most younger guys are either gay or look it. It's all fun and games for me to tell my husband his fingernails are gross and offer him my nail file. It's quite something else if he actually listens to me! Men are supposed to be barbaric to a point. I would never actually want my husband to keep his nails all neat and proper. I would never want him to shave any part of his body, or style his hair with product. Hypocritical though it may sound, I do think the emo look is hot. And that has got to be because the hair is long and I kinda have a thing for loose strands that fall across the face. But it is possible to be manly and still have long hair, in the days of old all men had long hair. I do not understand the desire for any man to have short hair. Even the ugliest of short-hairs can be transformed into knights in shining armor upon letting their hair grow out.

I might sound anti-feminist for saying so, but women do not help men be manly anymore. We work jobs for them while they stay at home (something I have done but not because my man wanted it so), we wear the suits, we bring in the money, we expect them to make dinner, we expect them to clean, we swear profusely, we drink as much as they do. We go around offering ourselves to anyone, showing off all we've got, and generally being trashy. They have no reason to be men anymore, they don't have to, we the men now. And we have turned the real men into women. But when it all comes down to it we just are not built like men are, mentally and physically. There's no point in walking into a wall repeatedly and expect it to break simply because "That man over there walked through the wall", he did so with strength. As for us, we should get a ladder or jump to grab the ledge to pull ourselves over. We should use what we've got instead of what we wish we had.

Shame. Google's defines the word thus: Noun: A painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. I believe it is a word most of us have forgotten about. Us with our low vocabularies. The children of today would not even know where to begin reading real books in their world of texting in as few words as possible with as many abbreviations as possible.

I suppose the point here is that a man should be treated certain ways by women and that is that they should at least not treat men as though they were women, which is an act I myself am guilty of. That's not to say your man can be a slob, because he can be a gentleman as well as a man. It all depends. Do you give him a reason to be a man?

Little update

Being back home was wonderful. We got up the other two walls of the house and started on the second floor. Me and Victor picked the color of the downstairs, it'll be a light lilac color.

We went huckleberry picking (for those who don't know, they're similar to blueberries) and this year wasn't so good cause me and Victor only got about 3 quarts. Some years you can get gallons and gallons of the stuff. The next day me and my mom canned them in the pressure canner.

We went paintballing on Saturday and that was really fun. Showed me how out of shape I am! But I kept playing and the tired started going away. Afterwards I changed into my swimsuit and stepped into the lake for a little bit to wash off. I didn't go very far out cause it was murky and muddy at the bottom any further out than about armpit height.

Well, I have a pizza to eat! A mini-one, that is, I doubt I could eat a full-sized one by myself.

babbling

Yay, tooth infection! Started the other night but didn't really pick up till yesterday evening. I was feverish and really out of it today. Unable to really talk much and kinda wavery. I actually can't tell how much of my feverish and amused state has to do with lack of sleep (I was up a lot with my tooth last night) and how much is the tooth. But I'm fairly content, pain and all. I do need to eat at some point but I'm almost scared to cause the other side of my mouth isn't doing too great either and if I don't take it easy it'll get bad again too. A part of the tooth that's currently in pain is wiggly. I know cause last night I pushed at it by accident and whatever that did made it feel better, clicked it back into place or something I dunno. Wouldn't care much if it went away cause it's about the biggest part of that tooth that's left.

Left my hair mostly down (waterfall braid) and apparently the driver with the local beer company has never seen my hair down before cause he came in and went, "Holy crap!! You have a lot of hair!" It amused me greatly.

*sigh* Homesick.

Wanting sleep too, I forgot how draining these work hours are.

Zhaun says it's 6-2 on Monday the 15th and after that I can look at the schedule to find out the rest.

Bonnie has me working on a bunch of 709s she didn't have time to do and on one of the Grocery ones I'm missing, like, 2 dollars. I'll probably leave it for her. I'll go over it again tomorrow to see if I missed something, though.

Emily showed me the secret to eye makeup: Cream eye liner. Not pencil, not liquid, but cream/powder stuff. And you put it on with a brush. It's soooooooo much nicer than a pencil. And I know you're supposed to wash off makeup when you go to bed but seeing as I only wear makeup a few times a year on a whim or special occasion I doubt it hurts much that I don't wash it off. I really, really like how it looks after you sleep in it. It looks more natural, like it's there, subtle, but smudged, and noticeable. About the only thing you have to do is brush off any excess, like if you primarily slept on one side and the other still has more on it cause it didn't get as rubbed off in the night. I do rub at my eyes after I put the stuff on but not enough to get the "I slept in my makeup" look. I wore purple yesterday with Emily's liner. I got my own liner at Wal-Mart, charcoal colored cause I don't want straight black and I don't want brown. I might get brown at some point, though. But for now charcoal will work fine cause it's not so harsh.

I love the waterfall braid and I hate it. I hate how it tangles my hair and makes it greasier than it should be (something about holding almost all your hair in your mouth...) and getting the braid in the back right. That braid is horrendous. I had nasty tangles trying to do it this morning and wound up tearing out a little tangle that would have otherwise taken forever to get undone.

Well, I'm going to let my ears take a break from the headphones for a bit then play some Fallout. I'm having issues with whether or not to help the slavers. I worked for them for a bit, then rescued some kids from them, and now there's a runaway slave and I think if she had the ability to break loose she deserves to be free, but then she's not doing very good at hiding if she's all "I'm a runaway slave but don't tell anyone" so if it's not me turning her in it'll be someone else. Course everyone in that game seems to have their own thing and ignores everyone and everything else so I doubt anyone else even cares. In-game. Eh, so far I've covered for her.

Kelly Clarkson's "You Found Me", I like that song. I saw a nice Anastasia fanvid of that song. I think if you cut out the silly bits it would make a really nice story. I think the same about Mulan. I like what Disney did for both stories but I wouldn't mind, in fact, I would really like, if there was a line of Disney for Adults books that are the same story with more, ah, details. I read a nice "what disney didn't show you" kinda fanfic for Mulan that I really liked. Anyway, this song reminds me of me and Victor. It just does.

Depending on what's next I'll take a break. Oh, Stepping Out, it's part of the GTA soundtrack. We have it at work too and I always imagine driving down a neon-lit street at night, going onto the sidewalk, bodies flying. One star popping up. Oh, old lady with a shopping bag, time to back up and hit her again! *happy sigh*

I kinda want to just write a bit about each song that pops up but I'm not being very faithful to random play. Even for the last one I skipped a few first.


mmm... I've never really been very interested in Michael Jackson's This Is It, but right now his voice in that song is very... good... teehee... Speaking of which I have a delightful wallpaper of him that is fit to make me break into girly giggles about half the time I see it:

Work

I yelled at a vendor at work today. The local beer guy didn't show up till 10:15 and I didn't know the guy. I had been planning to joke around with the normal driver but it wasn't him. So instead I told him, "Receiving closed at 10:00. I'll let you in, though." and he said something about waiting across the street for Coke to leave. So I told him, "Coke left an hour ago." He was all like, "...oh..." in an I've been caught lying kinda way. He was tripping over himself after that. I know that doesn't sound like I yelled, but it was my tone of voice. Authoritative and upset. Not really loud. Bonnie would have been very upset, so he's glad he got me and not her.

For the Tuesday conference call they send a follow-along list of what they'll be discussing. Normally I let the grammar errors slide, but this time I grabbed a pen and fixed the ones on the sheet I'd printed out. Grammar really isn't a difficult skill. These are people at the corporate level of, what, the 3rd largest grocery chain in the country. They should at least have basic English skills.